When drugs/medication are introduced life continues to ‘be the same’ thus perpetuating the sameness that we have been living – ensuring that life continues along it’s merry way, unchanged, continuing to do the things that you have always done whether you like them or not. It’s neither a transition or depression. It’s just flatlining life.
Looking back now I wasn’t only having my second midlife crisis, I was also having a bit of a meltdown! The problem was that I was doing what was expected of me, school work of a night, cooking for the family, cleaning, being responsible….
I’d heard of and actually treated women who were going through the “empty nest syndrome’ and really? I thought it was just rubbish. Who wouldn’t be just stoked to be free and not answerable to the confines of family life. Who could possibly fall into a deep depression when the kids are all gone?!
For most women I’ve spoken to a midlife crisis happens for 2 reasons, either some major life changing event occurs or a gentle awakening that the kids are sort of ok, the partner is pretty happy and so are they, so it’s time to immerse themselves in the deep sense of being themselves – as opposed to being the person they have become.