Have a look around you, take a look at the youngsters singing, running, playing with their toys, leaping over the lounge and bouncing around like a jumping bean. They are just FULL of themselves! I mean that in a good way.
I was chatting to my grand daughter on skype the other day and her spontaneity and wonderment, determination (no – I want the nappy with the CROCODILE on it!), enjoyment, playing with new concepts (when she turned the light off in the room I blacked out the skype camera with my finger), we sang songs – well actually I did, chatted and did silly things – there was nothing out-of-bounds, just fun to be had and things to be done. When she decided we would play catch with her new soccer ball it was a bit of a problem though.
She has recently been quite sick – but being a baby has bounced back really quickly with no memory of it and a wonderful happy outlook.
In my nursing days I worked in the kids ward in a major hospital. This was a real eye opener for me. These were REALLY sick kids, cancer, major car accidents, severe illnesses and birth deformities etc. There was a day I asked one of the kids what he was in for – his answer has always stayed with me “brain cancer silly!” then he ran off to another part of the ward, another child who had just had major brain surgery that day and had a drain in his head, he was under strict instructions to remain in bed until it was removed or he might simply die, there was no fear in this child when I took him back, he simply wanted to see his friends. These kids would ambush me with water pistols, run amok and have a great time – having no knowledge that some of them were supposedly terminal. These kids have life, REAL life.
The Adult hospital situation was much different, a sad, quiet, place where people are isolated for their own health. There is no fun, no clowns, no laughter, no funny movies, no place to join others and chat – just illness, pain, suffering, medication, quiet visitors and very serious staff. I’m not sure this is the right approach. All illness is there as a reflection of you state of mind. How you feel is how you appear. Show me a man with his head in his hands in despair and I’ll show you a man with little energy, probably pain somewhere, a sad man who can’t enjoy the moment – way too much in his head to laugh – and ultimately a man who will get sick.
When is the last time you:
- Put your headphones in and danced while doing your morning or evening walk,
- Did something that you are uncomfortable doing?
- Did something you would term “silly”
- Laughed until you cried
- Just – walked out the door to see where you might go
- Didn’t make a plan
- Turned TV off mid favourite show
- Refused a call from a friend because you were more important right now.
- Took the step towards your perfect life
- Didn’t give up
Over the years I have seen so many people take control of their lives in many different ways.
Here are some examples:
- A young man who had been in a car accident and literally lost half of his brain. This man was what we would term a vegetable, no speech (his speech centre in his brain had literally gone), no movement, no interaction at all – not even a blink to respond. His family came over every day to tell him jokes (there should be more of this in all hospitals), one day he smiled!. Then he laughed, then he opened his eyes, started moving his body, eating and then walking.
- A woman who had been told she had cancer (it was’t terminal) simply died overnight.
- A man who had throat cancer waited until he saw his brother and then died literally with a smile on his face as soon as he left.
- A young woman who had a debilitating disease and was in unimaginable pain, her left leg was blue – it was completely dead, no pulse in that leg at all – she was accompanied by her doting boyfriend who adored her and had clippings about the disease and even wanted to sit with her all the time…and I mean ALL the time. her disease had become his addiction. This disease has a very bad prognosis, but how she coped with it was wonderful. She dropped her boyfriend, quit her job (she had been on sick leave for ages) and soon after that her pain left. No pain, I’m not kidding. She had no pain, she took a new job and is happy…and pain free.
These people have taken control of their lives.
How bad does it have to be for you to change your life, to decide to LIVE or to live a life with no joy.
What do you think you would have to do to start on that journey?
Are you afraid of hurting anybody in the process and is that a REAL fear or one that has been learned through being taught the “right” thing to do.
Are your choices really yours?
If you’d like a hand to find out how to break free of your repeating thoughts that are getting you nowhere, to take the step towards the joy and sense of who you really are – I’m offering a free 30 min one-on-one consultation for everyone until the end of Jan 2016. This can be conducted via Skype, phone or if possible over coffee.
I’d love to hear from you, hear about your journey and frustrations. either click the ‘Message me” at the bottom of the screen or email me at brigid@beInspiredLiving.com and we can set up a time that suits us both.